Unhealthy relationships come in many forms, whether it’s jealousy, frequent arguments, cheating or lack of respect. These behaviours can be signs of a toxic relationship, or they could be domestic abuse. 

It’s important to understand the distinction between the two. While toxic relationships are deeply upsetting and unhealthy, they aren’t always abusive. In a toxic relationship, boundaries are sometimes crossed, leading to a situation where either person feels that the relationship makes them more unhappy than happy. However, it is not an intentional, systematic and calculated pattern of deliberate abuse. 

On the other hand, domestic abuse, as defined by Women’s Aid, is an ongoing pattern of controlling, coercive, threatening, degrading, and violent behaviour, including sexual violence, often by a partner or ex-partner. The signs of abuse aren’t always immediately obvious, but over time, they can erode your self-esteem and confidence. 

If you’re not sure whether you’re relationship is toxic or abusive, that’s okay. Starting to recognise red flags in your relationship is a good first step. Toxic relationships aren’t always abusive, but abusive relationships are always toxic. 

If you’re questioning the nature of your relationship, it’s important to seek support. If you live in Cumbria and would like to receive support from Safety Net in relation to abuse you have experienced, please reach out to us today.